At age 18 I realized that the meaning of my life is to enjoy them. Before that I was mainly trying to satisfy my parents, and get good grades at school (pretty stressful!!)
Thanks to a friend who gave good advice and example, I realized I wanted to feel joy, fun, and pleasure, and I asked myself, what do I want to do with my life to feel these beautiful emotions? the answer was - I'd like to be a musician, since music is the thing that made me feel most fun in my life. These days I'm asking what are the things that make me feel most fun within the world of music and other areas of my life.
Amongst the personal pleasures of enjoying food, bodily pleasures, a nice warm weather, swimming in the lake and hiking, meditating - all these create a feeling of fun, relaxing kind of fun. The most rewarding feeling is when I'm able to inspire other people in some positive direction, either speak with a friend and give good advice or strengthen them, or play music for people and see their eyes, their faces change to a feeling of peace and calmness, through my music and songs. That is by far the most amazing fun feeling I have these days. I'm not saying this is the only thing I want to do all day, but I want to focus on that, and try to create more ways I could do that.
Each morning upon waking up my intention goes to feeling abundant, peaceful, excited by my day and thankful for what I have. I feel that is a pretty easy and authentic way of doing that is increasing my faith. Asking myself - how would my physiology be if I’d be a very reverent person with a lot of faith in this moment? what would I choose to think about? and how would I think about my life?
I’d be realizing that what I have is thanks to God or the creator, or the universe, and that my ideal state is align myself with that force of creation and unwavering faith.
Here is an affirmation that I’ve been using (you can switch the word ‘God’ with universe, creator, divine force, infinite consciousness, source, something outside of you that is all knowing etc..) : “God is abundant, all knowing, pure love and spirit, and my body, my cells and my energy belongs to God and therefore I choose in this moment to connect and align with that energy. To feel it in every cell, in every breath. god’s ideas, energy, excitement, appreciation, is flowing now into me and out of me.
What if every negative emotion had a positive alternative and what if our job is to find that positive that will move us forward?
1. Helplessness - lets say an exciting idea jumped into my mind - I want to invent this, travel there, achieve this, this is my dream. Almost instantly that thought of “oh, I can’t do this” - kick in the stomach. It is painful. What if, in that second, I could choose to say “wait a minute.. lets choose differently” instead, I’d say - what one little thing can I do now to go in that general direction. Immediately the negative emotion disappears. At that moment, add a positive spice into the soup - some faith, some hope, and some confidence in who you are.
2. Jealousy - oh how my mind is prone to go to that emotion. I’ve lost some good friends over that emotion, cause I couldn’t bare that pain of hearing about their success. No more, brainy! from now on, every time this emotion snicks in I ask “which dream am I giving up on?” or better - “how can I better define my next goal to accomplish something (as small as it may be) in that realm of my world.”
* remember that small steps are important, and also might be pleasurable. All big things have been accomplished with small (human) steps. so we must make them with passion and belief.
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I've been reading books such as "The Richest Man in Babylon"/George S. Clason, Listening to podcasts of Phil Town and read some of "The Automatic Millionair"/David Bach.
They were all shouting in big letters "Pay yourself first" this is an old concept of how to save money, it's like having your own retirement fund, but I think it has a strong lasting effect on your confidence and sense of peace in the 'hear and now'. As a once 'broke musician' I can tell that having moments when you don't know where your money to cover your rent, bills or food will come from is stressful, and it's not worth that panic attack and becoming senseless and lost or any other component of this stress. Building that saving and (even before that) finding safe and fun and steady ways to make money is I would say even #1 important in priorities. I think doing something we love for a living is a must. For me, waking up for the day bored and stressed is not worth living. What is living anyways? if we do not feel alive?